I'm a guy who loves transwomen.

Hi! I am energetic, inquisitive, thoughtful, respectful, caring, strong, funny, healthy, hopeful, kind, and... well, you get the idea and can judge for yourself if you give me a try. I am seeking a feminine friend/partner for online or in-person relationship. Beyond that, I think I am open. I am in a relationship that lost the romance and sex some time ago and I hope for something new to fill what I am missing. I am considered by my friends to be a mature, smart, good looking, athletic man, but what do they know really? I am very interested in meeting special, interesting people, hopefully leading to friendships, possibly with benefits. I am an excellent listener, and I treat all others with respect, consideration, and compassion. Of course, passion is important too! 6'2" 180 lb fit and athletic, runner, enjoy basketball, 68 year old. Retired from career in banking and nonprofit management. Lover of nature and science with particular interest in astronomy and birding. I enjoy theater and art, and I am an avid reader. What else would you like to know about me? Just ask. Philosophy to live by: "Don't just learn, experience. Don't just read, absorb. Don't just change, transform. Don't just relate, advocate. Don't just promise, prove. Don't just criticize, encourage. Don't just think, ponder. Don't just take, give. Don't just see, feel. Don't just dream, do. Don't just hear, listen. Don't just talk, act. Don't just tell, show. Don't just exist, live." -- Roy T. Bennett

I have been a crossdresser from a very young age. I have come to grips with the fact that this hobby is a part of me that also makes me a better person. I am 5'11 so tend stand out when in heels but still love them! I love to chat with others who are ok with my feminine side. I want to blend and be classy like so many of you on URNOTalone!

Back under a new profile after a hiatus .. looking forward to renewing some friendships and making new ones! I'm happy to chat, but please have pics, or I'll likely ignore you. If you have nothing on your profile, I'll block you, especially after messaging me in chat on several occasions, where you've been ignored. I wish that this wasn't required. Unfortunately, it's to that point.

Same “Kelli”, but I needed a new account. Anyway, thank you for the opportunity to be part of this amazing community! I believe I first started chatting here in the previous version of URNA, 2006 or 7. I didn’t have any friends but in time I began to connect with people who were “like me”! ? I chatted for about 10 years, then I needed to step away for awhile—5 years. I came back to chat in 2022. I was missing the girls! They are so special to me, in the previous version and of course nowadays. Love you girls!! ?(and yes, a few fellas too ?) I was about 7 when I was thinking about whether I was a boy, or not. A few years later, I found out that I wasn’t a boy, internally. I didn’t have a sister (one older brother), so of course, my mom was my outlet to beginning dressing. I bought my first feminine clothing at 18, and I was happy So happy! I kept my feelings to myself…years and then decades, and no one else knew about me. Eventually I accumulated the equivalent of 5 or 6 big suitcases full of feminine clothes and stuff. But I was very lonely too. I eventually had a girl (cisgender woman) who was interested in me…and 2 years later we were married. But for 6 years I didn’t tell her anything about me, I just thought I was “cured by love”, and for a time it seemed right to erase my feelings about being a woman. But not really, I was living a lie. I couldn’t that anymore so i came out to her in 2005. Make a long story short—devastating, heartbreaking, but also forgiving, but eventually no….divorce in 2009, one day later I became “full time”, and moved from Illinois to Northern California in 2010. I’ve never been happier! After being unemployed for 9 months (my previous job i worked for 22 years back in Illinois), I was hired at Walmart, stocking goods at night (10 years), and by then i was a full time woman, and I was treated kindly all throughout my time there. In June, 2015, i had a stroke, , 3 years of hormones was one of the causes. Thankfully no physical problems, just my speech (speech therapy for 6 months), and nowadays my speech has improved significantly. In 2022, because of my recent health issues, i was not able to work anymore. These past few years became difficult, many medical procedures, but with help of doctors and nurses (and me!), I began to feel better about my health. And I am living alone (I had roommates for 16 years), so this is wonderful! In July 2023 I became legally Kelli Nicole Elam! Thank you everyone who helped me along the way, here and everywhere else. Love you girls and guys! Hugs and Kisses!!